There are times when we want to give up the very things that we once got excited about. It could be anything from meeting an old friend to working on a dream project. When you are drained emotionally, you try to have minimum contact with the people around you. Even the thought of socializing with people chokes you to death.
You feel empty and tired like the world has lost it’s charm. It’s okay to lose your spark. Loss teaches you many valuable things. Having to try and going through the trials to actually overcome, to get there to win yourself, to triumph and be proud of what you have been through, that’s what makes life interesting.
Always remember your thoughts are the steering wheel of your life. Let’s think of life as a ship, whose steering wheel can’t turn around 360 degrees right away. It will take time to adjust the sail. Our success and failures depend upon steering of the wheel which will show results after some time.
Our optimistic approach can save us from many regrets.
Don’t Adopt Wolf’s Weakness: Never Lose Focus
There’s an ancient myth about a wolf inspired so much by the beauty of the full moon that he howled every night longing for the attention of the moon.
Inspirations are good for motivation but at times you get too attached and lose your focus. You start chasing the moon and forget about the part that the moon has to disappear when sun comes up. Be inspired by the good things people do, you don’t have to love the whole picture. Adapt to the things that are healthy for you because at extreme, water is poison too.
Win by Helping Others Win First
Sometimes your level of incentives as well as your punishments depends upon your position. The more knowledge you have, the more you are held accountable and responsible for guiding others. Every person in your life will teach you something, even the one who you think is jealous or planning some evil scheme for you, help them. Help them calm down, untangle their mess if you can, or simply stay away if that helps. The more you solve other’s problems, the more you would be able to process clearly. The feeling of receiving gratitude like when someone looks at you and says “Because of you I didn’t give up”, that, my friend, is a source of some serious motivation.
Take a Break (With a Backup)
Procrastination is a black-hole if you take a break to get your motivation back. Work with someone who is equally passionate. Work with people who want to help you succeed. When working alone, chances are instead of finding ways to get motivated you will give up. Engaging people will keep you on right track. You do inexplicable things for the people who care about you, like walk an extra mile before giving up.
It’s not your fault if things are not working out, it’s not your fault that you didn’t see it coming, and it’s definitely not worth the stress. Forgive yourself for making a wrong decision because at that time it was the right decision. People often forget the situation and the consequences at that time, remember the decision and are left wondering why did they not make a better one. You can’t deal with today’s problem with tomorrow’s strength.
Take the Leap, Learn How to Fly
It’s inevitable to fail. Look at any famous personality, none of them were born with a golden spoon in their mouth. They all failed- perhaps more time that you can count. Jeff Bezos (CEO of Amazon) used to sell books online in a shabby room in his apartment.
Your failures are just as necessary as the success because being successful is one thing but staying there requires a level of significance of the failures. The biggerer the success, the harder the fall. Alice would have never discovered the wonderland if she didn’t fall. But remember to dust off after the fall and stand up like it was part of the game.
“I almost wish I hadn’t gone down that rabbit-hole—and yet—and yet—it’s rather curious, you know, this sort of life!”
― Lewis Carroll,
Self-Care isn’t Selfishness
Prioritizing yourself is not selfishness. If you think you need more time then take that time. If you think you can do better then do better. There is no hurry if you are not ready. Things will eventually work out and draining yourself isn’t the ritual for motivation. With every decision you make, make sure to add yourself to the equation. Acknowledge your effort and give yourself credit for how far you have come.
Be Flexible in your Approach
Imagine a fish that can never get out of the water. To the fish, little fishpond is the whole world. When someone standing beside the pond, reaches out and lifts the fish out of the pond like an external force, now our fish sees that its whole world is just a part of a bigger universe. Seeing other fishponds, the sky above, the trees and realizing that it is a part of a much larger system which it had never dreamed of. This is called the multiverse theory which supports that our decisions have a severe impact on our future. Change of perspective about a thing can make you more productive. Admire the path but don’t fall in love with it, be flexible to change the road if it deviates, keep your eyes on your goal.
Celebrate the Little Victories
It doesn’t have to be a huge success to get you motivated. It’s simply a matter of attitude- a winning attitude which can come from the small victories. Wake up early, make that trip to your favorite restaurant, finish reading that book. Celebrate your small efforts. Don’t judge yourself, there are already plenty of people to do that. Success is a series of small wins.
The 100 Times Rule
Before giving up on anything, make a diary and write 100 steps you took in an effort to make it work.
Let’s just face it. No one’s going to make a diary for that, so stop finding excuses and keep trying. If you still feel like giving up, tell yourself “It’s too early to give up” and when you get tired of repeating that, remind yourself “You have come too far to give up.”
There shall be instances when you need to be disciplined, get yourself up and play your game. Know it’s not easy, people who lose motivation for a long time have a higher tendency of lower self-esteem, anxiety, and other mental issues but always remember you are the superhero of your own story. No one can save you if you play the victim card. Next time you run out of motivation make sure to remind yourself of all the battles that you conquered. You have come too far to give up now.
This human-version-of-migraine is not afraid to call herself mama’s princess and someday will be upgraded to Queen. She is an Engineer to be and was a tech geek in a parallel universe. Anything logical here is purely accidental.